Bad Bad Mommy

Recently, The New York Times ran an article about parents who are apologists’ for sexual assault. I am not exaggerating:

The mothers’ resolve comes from their raw maternal instinct to protect their children. But several who agreed to interviews also said they did not doubt that their sons’ accusers had felt hurt.

Their sons may not have been falsely accused, the mothers said, but they had been wrongly accused. They made a distinction.

One mother, Judith, said her son had been expelled after having sex with a student who said she had been too intoxicated to give consent.

“In my generation, what these girls are going through was never considered assault,” Judith said. “It was considered, ‘I was stupid and I got embarrassed.’”

In the United States, there’s an odd view that anything parents do with the intention of bettering their own children’s lives is inherently justified. As one can deduce from my tone, I’m pretty skeptical of this. At some point, parents are being selfish, even if it is for the sake of their children.

There are valid discussions about whether people are properly educated about consent, protecting due process, and how investigations of sexual assault are carried out. These groups of parents don’t help that. All they seek to do is make it difficult for sexual assault claims to be investigated and properly handled, all for the sake of their perfect, delicate, can-do-no-wrong child.