Assumptions

Generalizations are hard, so sometimes it’s best to not make them:

cis: I don’t date trans women because I don’t like penis

a trans woman: I have a vagina

cis: UM I MEAN I don’t date trans women because I want to have children

trans woman: I have kids right now who could use a co parent

cis: UM WHAT I MEANT TO SAY IS I don’t date trans women because I don’t like tall muscular people

trans woman: I’m tiny and short and I have weak little arms

cis: OH MY FUCKING GOD STOP BEING INDIVIDUAL PEOPLE

While this exchange is likely fictionalized, it complicates the transgender experience in an important way.

Last May I wrote a long piece about gender identity, but two big takeaways were that the medical/scientific consensus is that there are more than two genders, and that being transgender is not as simple as “men who become women” or vice versa. It’s not as difficult of a concept as some people try to make it out to be.